I found that when two individuals are too close to each other, meaning they stay together most of the time, interpersonal conflicts are unavoidable. No matter how similar the personalities they have and how much they share the same kinds of hobbies, there will be instances that they both want to slap each other’s face. This is because all of us are unique in the world. We handle things differently and sense the world differently. Hence, I believe that a frequent communication will result in better interpersonal relationship.
I moved to a hostel when I was in the high school and lived in a two bedded room with another girl. That was also the first time I lived outside home with a stranger. Initially, everything was fine. As the time passed, we found ourselves having different kinds of living habits. Although most of them were very small issues, such as cleaning frequency, voice volume when answering to a phone and the sleeping time, we did not talk to each other about these and such issues mounted day after day. These little unpleasant things in daily living made both of us feel very annoyed. None of us wanted to take a step back. Then it developed to the situation that we seldom talked in the room. I even tried to spend more time in common rooms in hostel rather than in the room.
Until there was one day that I felt the situation unbearable, I started to talk to her about the issues in our room. I talked about my unhappiness with the cleanness of the room and the annoying light came from her desk at night which gave me a hard time falling asleep. On the other hand, she also expressed her unhappiness about other areas. I still remember that we had a very long talk that day. In the end, both of us became more aware of the other’s feeling and watched ourselves’ behaviors in the room more often. Although we did not manage to solve the conflict totally, we manage to know the importance of expressing the unhappiness out rather than keeping it to ourselves.
Compromise is a way to solve the conflicts, however we always need a talk before that. How do you think?